Sunday, February 04, 2007
Habit one: Be proactive
Like I mentioned earlier, this is something I really got to learn. I am so easy to be influence by other people, the outside world. Difficult to creat a inner peace, undisturbed by the outside feedback. Used to think it is because that I am still young. Now it seems more like a habit culvatating.
I learned that you need to carry your own weather---social weather. Reactive people are victim to the weather/mode. Between what happens to us and our response is a space. Our power of freedom to choose how to respond lies in our happiness. It is like a water and coke bottle. The former has no change when you shake it and open it, the latter one does. This is an example of proactive versus reactive.
There is big circle of concern from the questioner, there is small circle of Influence. When you respond while focus on the circle of influence, which is the things in your control, it enlarges. On the other hand, if you focus on the circle of concern, the question, which is beyond your control, you circle of influence shrinks.
Need to practice this.
I learned that you need to carry your own weather---social weather. Reactive people are victim to the weather/mode. Between what happens to us and our response is a space. Our power of freedom to choose how to respond lies in our happiness. It is like a water and coke bottle. The former has no change when you shake it and open it, the latter one does. This is an example of proactive versus reactive.
There is big circle of concern from the questioner, there is small circle of Influence. When you respond while focus on the circle of influence, which is the things in your control, it enlarges. On the other hand, if you focus on the circle of concern, the question, which is beyond your control, you circle of influence shrinks.
Need to practice this.
# posted by sunshine @ 7:12 PM 
